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Dancing With A Pack of Wolves

After two weeks of lurking in my sleep inducing lair I finally grew tired of staring at and dreaming about the rockers on my wall and dragged my burned out body and mind to the mall. Cady Heron from Mean Girls was definitely right when she said the mall is like the wild. Whoever thought the mall is fun amidst the deafening howl of the crowd is getting disapproval from me. There’s a mother who swears at her child, there are volunteers asking for donations but doesn’t want to accept coins, there are temptations, there are lovers, there are friends and simply there’s a lot of people. It is nothing less than chaotic. As I danced the graceless steps avoiding bumping into people I counted the never ending illogical list of things I dislike, despise and denounce about this society, not of humans but of dancers.

Mall is where incidental reunion happens. When you see an old classmate they’ll most probably greet you “you gain/lose weight”. It’s as if their eyes are weighing scales. There are other thoughtful greetings like “how are you?” Physical appearance has to appeal to people first, personality and sense comes after or even totally disregarded in most cases. Beauty is a necessary commodity in a world of vanity.

Fourty percent of the kids roaming the mall are wearing pop culture referenced shirts. Ask someone wearing a Che Guevarra shirt about Motorcycle Diaries and they’ll most likely stare at you as if you’re an alien. It’s exactly same thing with band shirts, people wear The Misfits, Slipknot, The Ramones and doesnt even listen to their songs. My friend by chance, once sat down with a punk girl, complete with boots, black clothes, eyeliner and huge Skullcandy. When she looked down at her ipod, the girl is listening to Black Eyed Peas. She laughingly told this story with a hint of disgust. It’s a society of cool. And cool is merely defined by commercialism. It cant be helped that Che Guevarra’s sweet rebel face is highly marketable. If you’re not cool you don’t belong. If you’re not into what the public generally buy you’re boring and weird and freak and if you write about how tragic it is they call you emo. Conformity is one thing and individuality is another. The line between the two was drawn and conformity overlaps individuality. You are an individual but you are a part of the society. Its becoming pretty sad to call yourself you.

I could go on with this endless irrational and immaturish ranting but the bottom line is it is a hard routine to move around others especially if others have difficulty moving themselves. What will make it much of a challenge is you’re not even a good dancer yourself.

PS:  I’d rather take the consequences of stepping on others and my feet than to move on an empty street.

A Girls Guide For Girls in Meeting Their Boyfriend’s Girl Friends

This spawned from a disastrous meet up with a friends snob girlfriend.

1. GET YOUR FACE OFF YOU BOYFRIEND FOR EVEN A SPLIT SECOND. Yeah we know she is royally smitten by him(and we also knowwho he is smitten with) she doesnt have to make it that much obvious by turning her back on us and for the whole freaking time just face her boyfriend. I swear if I bump her on the streets face to face I wouldnt even recognize her. To begin with she was brought to that place so we could get to know her and then she’ll act like she doesnt even want to be around us. If youre the girlfriend wouldnt you want to know more about your boyfriend by knowing his friends who know him all the way to his bone marrow?

2. REFUSING TO AN OFFER IS AN INSULT. She was sort of invited by her boyfriend and not actually us. When they arrive we already ordered a plate of the place’s trademark pizza normally when you are offered anything by someone with good intention, you say the appropriate civilized response but she just answered by shaking her head in refusal. So we ordered soda for her still she didnt gave us a decent no for an answer. Refusing may be alright as long as it is done in a polite manner. Or she couldve told us what she wanted to eat or drink, the problem is she never talked. Talk about rude attitude.

3. LAUGH AT JOKES. His boyfriend seriously has some sense of humor and when we starts rolling the ball its just plain riot. We tried laughing around about the things we usually make fun of from Sebastian Bach to google translations to cracked.com. It kinda felt stupid when you exhausted all your wits and still people dont react to it. We were like, are we not witty enough for you? I mean we dont really force her to smile or laugh just at least react, we all like people to relate to us.

4. (FORCED)SMILE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE AN ANSWER TO A QUESTION. I hate it when people answer you a question with a fake smile. If youre not in the mood just be frank and answer a smartass remark that would really impress me. She’s not even pleasing us in the first place so I dont see a reason for her to try to be nice at all.

5. IF YOU FEEL INTIMIDATED JUST LEAVE. People with low social abilities tend to be uncomfortable around strangers, that we understand but if you dont feel like pretending to enjoy listening to your boyfriend having a bang out of the conversation with his girl friends you can at least be smart enough to make up excuses like you have to go home because you remember you left the fridge open. We are all good with alibis, we gorgeous humans. I see no point of enduring three hours and causing more damage to yourself and to your boyfriend. Surely after you leave one of his friends will text him, ‘I dont like her.’

Social rules and being yourself do not often come together, different personalities oftentimes causes conflicts so the above ‘guides’ might not work for others except when their boyfriend is my friend.